Memo to Me: You Can’t Please Everyone
May 19, 2009
So, if you know me in real life, I’m kind of a people pleaser.
No, seriously, I am.
You can stop laughing now. Seriously.
It is my goal in life to make people happy. Content. Thrilled with everything.
I will bend over backwards, I will borderline (or just outright) annoy you making sure you are happy. I will drive you nuts.
It’s a gift, people. One I’d love to return to the store for a full refund. But I’ve been told there was a 30-Day return policy, and we’re 30+ years past that point.
Or it’s a side effect of my Jewish guilt.
Anyway.
If I have learned anything in the past few days, no matter how hard I try, no matter how personal I take things, no matter how much I listen, and try to accommodate…
YOU SIMPLY CAN NOT PLEASE ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE.
Even if you want to. Badly. Desperately.
You’re welcome.
May 19th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
I hear you. I’m a mediator, a peacemaker. Sometimes there is just no peace to be made. And that, my dear, is okay.
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May 20th, 2009 at 9:55 am
Shash, you succeed far more often than you realize. Love you sis. xoxoxoxoxo
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May 21st, 2009 at 6:48 am
Good memo. Sometimes even a pleaser (I’m one, also) needs to give herself a little reminder!
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May 21st, 2009 at 8:51 am
Amen to that!
I used to be a people pleaser but stopped when I realized that it felt like nothing I ever did was right. I put way too much pressure on myself then got mad at others when they did not just adore me. It’s all too much, I say!
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May 22nd, 2009 at 9:31 am
And the worst part of trying to please everyone it’s you that sometimes ends up displeased – and you can’t complain because you brought it one yourself. Or at least that happens to me. ;+)
Good luck with those people who are pleased, despite your best efforts.
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May 23rd, 2009 at 11:39 am
I know, this is so true, and dude, this fact makes me greatly displeased.
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May 23rd, 2009 at 10:47 pm
You are sooo right. But I am working on it too.
Thanks for the chat last night on this very subject!
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May 26th, 2009 at 8:06 pm
i stopped trying a long time ago. i try to ignore my jewish guilt though. but it keeps me up at night.
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June 15th, 2009 at 4:23 pm
I know the feeling (italian guilt in my case)- you can’t make yourself miserable trying to please everyone. Just be content with the decisions you make. That’s the most important.
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